Showing posts with label the aunts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the aunts. Show all posts

Friday, June 18, 2010

Separationally-Challenged

Daddy is still resistant to your growth. I mean I'd like to keep you a baby as long as possible, but am aware that at some point, Peter Pan, everyone has to grow up. So I said to your (normally intelligent, fairly rational) father "I mean I'd like her to stay little too, but what what do you want to do, block her development?" His answer was a firm and immediate "yes." Okaaaaay...

Then as we prepared you for bed, he tells me "I love that I can just tap her on the bottom randomly and it's not weird because I'm her dad." He is so going to purposefully embarrass you when you get older. Can't wait for that.  ;)

Speaking of love taps, you (little miss bright eyes) have been contracting quite the attitude lately. Mia says it's because you're so intelligent that you're reading us and trying to figure out how to get what you want. I just think you get frustrated and don't know how else to communicate. But honestly, there are times when you freak the h out. The most notable example stems from your recent love-affair with Bo. Though he remains wary of your tiny presence, Bo has grown more tolerant as of late. He graciously allows you to pat, climb, pull and mouth him with as much zeal as your little body can possibly possess. You love to play the "mess with Bo until he lumbers off and then chase him to another location and repeat" game. I'm not sure Bo knows you're playing. If we at any point interrupt this bonding (by picking you up), you thrash and whine and twist about as though set on fire. I would think you were in pain if I didn't know better. Current tactics to disarm this bomb include distracting you with whatever toy or person is available, removing you from the room/situation, and bribing you with food. Just kidding about the last one. Taking you away seems to help, but it's tough. It's crazy to me that we're having to deal with this already. Aren't you supposed to stay a baby a little longer? I may be starting to see daddy's point of view on this whole not growing up thing...


Maybe with our own stubborn selves, we should have known you'd be strong-willed. But if this is your first challenge, bring it on. We will nip it in the bud, my little diva. A battle of wills. 'Cause you know what princess? We can out-stubborn you. 

I'm sorry to do it and you may hate me for it sometimes, but you can't always get what you want. If you cry sometimes, though, you might find you get what you need.... 
(I'm joking. We will always try to meet your needs. That's what parents are for.)

The other side of this strange, misshapen parenting coin is that you've also been experiencing bouts of separation anxiety. You have a few favorite people in the world and everyone else is just scenery. Scenery that does not hold the baby...

The preference tier is as follows:
1. Mia
2. Daddy / Bo
3. Miss Alecia and/or Miss Nevona
4. Mommy
5. Granny
etc. (you get the picture)

For one reason or another, Mia is the absolute apple of your eye. To you, no one is more glorious and deserving of your love than your Mia Sally. Well, daddy might run a close second; but if your beloved Mia is around, you only have eyes for her! We discovered this during our week at the beach when you would cry for Mia if mommy took you and reach upside-down-backwards in search of her embrace. 

And hey, where's the "I don't love one parent more than the other; I love them both equally" filter, kid? Aren't you supposed to be born with that? At times when daddy hands you off and I want nothing more than a hug or snuggle, you scream bloody murder (and a pathetic "dadada" on a loop) to return to your fave. I'm sure this makes daddy feel good, but I have to secretly squelch the tears because admitting it hurts my feelings is ludicrous. You don't mean anything by it, I know. But I want so badly for you to love me. I mean I'm sure you do, but I'm emotionally high-maintenance and need the reassurance. Blessedly, daddy and Mia understand and give mommy extra hugs for support. And daddy had a wonderful suggestion of greeting one another before we greet you. That way we can show you the correct hierarchy. It's mommy and daddy; then you. I think the theme here is "this is our world, and we're fitting you in."

And now (since I've mainly written about your noncompliance so far and am feeling a tad guilty because it's really such a small part of your world), I'd like to share some of the things I love about you at almost 10 months(!):

  • When you pull up on something and then turn around and wobble a step or two towards me I get so excited (but then I realize that walking = toddler and you're not my little baby anymore, and it makes me less anxious... ). Daddy's probably thinking of any way possible to keep you from taking those steps, but I'm afraid it's imminent.
  • You're eating everything (thank daddy for that) with your pinschers, which is basically the most adorable way I can think of to get your dietary allowance. We like to lay it out on the tray and let you go for the gold. Puffs and breadcrumbs turn up just about everywhere, but I'm sure some of it actually lands in your mouth...   The most recent of daddy's ill-conceived food tasting choices? Dorito cheese straight from the finger. Am I on television?
  • If you happen to be sleeping and wake up to a face you love (see list above), you burst into that shining smile and start waving hello. That floppy little gesture just melts me to pieces.
  • Evidently, you can now produce dog sounds. Miss Nevona shared with me today that you have the "ruff ruff ruff" down pat. You are becoming quite proficient in jibberish as well. I bet you and Bo have secret conversations..
  • Often when we play, you create your own obstacle course just so it will require you to climb over us and back again. You particularly enjoy shimmying monkey-style up daddy's chest while he's sideways and rolling over to his back. Gymnast? Maybe. Daredevil? Clearly. I'll start practicing the fastest routes to the hospital.
  • At daycare, you have a sleep mat (on account of the pulling up in your crib thing). Daddy and I find it impossible to buy that you actually fall asleep there and stay still, but your teachers insist. When daddy picked you up yesterday, they divulged that you were so ready to nap at 2:30, you voluntarily dragged yourself over and laid down on your mat without prompting. Aw!
  • You're loving water (aside from the ocean waves, but they scare me too so we're not counting that). Daddy waded with you at Aunt Jennifer's 30th birthday Tie-Dye and pool party, which was your first time in a big girl pool. You do have precisely 9 bathing suits—several of which are bikinis that may or may not be wildly inappropriate for a baby—so I certainly hope you continue this water infatuation. I'll put some beach pictures up asap.  :)  
  • You also have a preference for water from a plastic bottle (sadly, I am not kidding—but I think it's because you find it necessary to envelop the opening while drinking). If it's not in the bottle, a straw will do the trick. And despite daddy's major sippy-cup resistance, he is happy to teach you to use a real cup. Observe:
  • You dance. Not that I'm shocked in any way, considering the 2 bachelorette parties, 2 weddings, numerous dance dance revolution battles and countless super baby dance parties of your "youth." And you love music. Granny contends that country is your fave. Traitor. You are my baby, right? I'm hoping to catch you on daddy's phone because corroboration exists only on the camcorder at this juncture. But it is too too cute. 



No, you're not in that video, but I'm just sayin'.. I won't be surprised if they contact you for the next one.

In other news, Aunt Jennifer and Uncle Jay recently welcomed your future crush, Graham Nance Weaver, just over a week early on June 9th. 

Isn't he great at his job? (sleeping)

He is as little, beautiful, and sweet as can be, and I have to apologize in advance that you will not be allowed to date him, as apparently this would be awkward for your father and Uncle Jay. (You can take it up with them). But I'm sure you'll be great friends and you can show him all sorts of good stuff like how to fling pacis and eat sand. Jake still has your heart for the time being anyway.*   ;)    

*I really am joking about these things. But it's only because I so want you to bond with your non-related cousins. I know you're all very popular in your own circles, but mommy and your aunts are kinda close. So if you wouldn't mind humoring us, playing with one another and at least trying to be pals, we'd greatly appreciate it. And I bet you'll have some great stories when you're older (you know, when you're all about to graduate from UNC).

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Little Angel

Disclaimer: This and several of the posts before and after are just snippets of life shortly after Ansley blessed us with her awesomeness. They are copied from a journal I kept on my phone, through a program called "Total Baby" - one the most useful apps ever created (imho). It also houses stats, doc appointments, sleeping and bath schedules, and (cue choral music) helps you keep track of nursing/feeding frequency and duration. Anyone who's had and b-fed a baby will echo my sentiment that this, my friends, is magic.

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You are just so flipping adorable! I can't get over how attached I am to you and you've only been here a few short days. I think Jon said it best that the reason it's so different with a baby is that you love them instantly. The bond is there from the beginning. I even felt protective of you right away. And with a partner, it takes time to develop - no matter how strong it becomes. 



It's amazing, though. How can I not look at Jon now and think what an incredible gift he gave me / that we made for each other? I feel closer to him now than ever and that is a hard thing to accomplish.

Speaking of daddy - not only has he been so helpful with you (changing diapers, positioning you for feeding, distracting/holding you so I can do things myself), but he's been very attentive to mommy's needs as well. He's drawn me baths, gotten me food, and even made a special trip to Sonic for a huge bag of my favorite soft ice like the kind they had in the hospital.

Yeah, there are some hard parts and not everything is perfect or comes naturally of course, but right now I am loving this babycation. Spending time with our new family is such a gift from God.

*I think you have a few other admirers, too..
(The grandparents, aunt Jenna & uncle B were also there constantly, and I'm sure you'll see the thousands of pictures you took with them so I won't repeat that here). 


Some of your early visitors: 


your godmother, aunt Heidi

aunt Jaclyn (look! there's Jake in her tummy/natural boppy)
uncle chad and brooklyn came to see you after we got home, too.

uncle Jay's not too sure yet, but aunt Jennifer is smitten

(sometimes before men have their own babies they're a little afraid of holding other babies, despite the promises that you won't break  ;)


aunt loryn
(uncle lee was sick, so you didn't get to meet him right away)


aunt Marisa (with Nora Kate hiding/just getting started in her belly!)


uncle nick. he lives in charleston now (it's actually June 2010), 
but we're trying to keep in touch.


Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Shower the Love

So last weekend in Winston, we attended the best baby shower ever in the history of the world. Coincidentally, it was ours. :)

Unfortunately, unless you were there, you just can't fathom the level of awesome achieved by the hard work and creativity of Ansley's soon-to-be aunts and uncles. But maybe pictures will help. 

(No, really: we didn't plan that. We're just ... matchy. In general ;)

 "The six." As the boys like to point out, we have 
about 65 pictures in this same general configuration. 
Maybe they'd care to give us some 
"surprised face; hand gesture" posing lessons...


 Mama holding mama holding mamatini. Mmmm.

Bumping bellies with my bro (Uncle B)

Playing "don't break the water[balloon]" - coolest shower game of all time

(No, I'm not in labor. 
Just pelted my mom and Adam with a rogue water balloon. 
Maybe not so cool for them. 
Sorry!! That's my bad.)

Hey! Now that I see this hug, I'm a little suspicious that they may have been trying to squeeze Ansley out!!

My beautiful girls (and Jake!)

 The crew

And speaking of my peeps:

I just wanted to write you all a quick note to let you know how much Saturday night meant to me (and Jon ;) We had the best time surrounded by our favorite people in the world. I thoroughly enjoyed basking in the glow of such supportive and excited friends and family, and I'm not sure I've ever felt so loved and attended to. The food was awesome... the drinks were wonderful... the decorations were perfect... the games were so much fun. I don't know how you thought of everything and then went above and beyond to make it even more special. You are just amazing to have put together such an incredible night. I'm pretty sure if any of you decided to take on another career, it could be catering. Amongst the cheesecake bites, cupcake rattles, fruit "carriage," mini foods and specialty drinks, I can't pick a favorite. I could have drank 8 pina coladas and mamatinis - it's probably good I stopped at 2 of each(!). And I think I may start eating my burgers on Hawaiian buns because the size and sweetness just somehow made it better. I can't believe you did all of that for us, and I'm so thankful that I have such thoughtful and extraordinary friends. I am still in shock and awe of your generosity. And not only did you organize every last detail, but you took the time to be there (some of you from quite a distance and at quite an inconvenient time) and then gave even more.

I am going to try my best to let Ansley know how lucky and blessed she is to have this family of friends in her life (though I don't know how I'll do you justice!). Hopefully it'll be enough for now to tell you that I know how fortunate I am. I can't even convey how much I cherish your friendship. You make everything better when you're there. Life would be so much less without you in it, and I would be so much less without you. You are simply awesome. Stopping crying at my computer now... I love you all so flipping much!!

(Since this blog probably won't go public for a while, I'm sending that thanks via Facebook, too).